Absolutely, there are things better left unsaid when it comes to cheating, but not in the way that most people think. Some people believe that if you cheat, you should keep it to yourself to protect your partner’s feelings. I completely disagree with that; I believe in transparency and taking responsibility for your actions.
However, what should be left unsaid are the flimsy, sugar-coated excuses that people invent to deflect from their infidelity. “It just happened,” or “I didn’t mean to hurt you,” are just cowardly ways to avoid the harsh truth.
Cheating didn’t just happen; it was a decision, a series of choices that climaxed in betrayal.
When addressing infidelity, what’s better left unsaid are the details that fuel the imagination and cause further pain. Does a partner really need to know where, when, and how many times? Or the explicit details? No. That’s just additional shrapnel in an already brutal wound. The conversation needs to steer clear of specifics that serve no purpose in the healing process but only sow more seeds of destruction.
Some people latch on to the idea that voicing their dissatisfaction or the thrill-seeking excuse legitimizes their betrayal. It doesn’t. It’s better to own up to the actions without giving a play-by-play that leads to more drama.
And let’s not forget the blame game. Pointing fingers saying, “You weren’t there for me,” or “You made me do this,” is a cop-out. It’s a strategy for the cheater to evade the fact that they lacked the integrity or courage to deal with relationship issues upfront and opted for a dishonest route.
Moreover, what you should never say is nothing. Silence can be as damaging as words. If you’ve cheated, you don’t get to just bite your tongue and wait for the storm to pass, because guess what? Storms don’t pass until the air is clear. And you can’t clear the air without opening your mouth.
Takeaway? The facts, not the fiction. Adultery is a heavy play, and if you’ve made that move, own up to it respectfully but spare the gritty, unnecessary details. Offer honesty, not because it’s comfortable, but because it’s the currency of respect in a situation where you’ve already short-changed someone.
However, confession isn’t the end, it’s only the beginning. It’s the first step in a marathon of regaining trust and rebuilding what’s been broken. Don’t just say it and expect the world to right itself – work for it.
People looking for a simple cheat code on what to say regarding cheating, remember this: deceit started this mess, it sure as hell won’t be what ends it. Be straightforward, tactful, and prepared to handle the consequences like an adult. That’s what’s better left said. Anything else that doesn’t serve to heal is better left unsaid.
What should be left unsaid are the flimsy, sugar-coated excuses that people invent to deflect from their infidelity. It just happened, or I didn't mean to hurt you, are just cowardly ways to avoid the harsh truth
