Strap in, because I’m about to drop a truth bomb bigger than any clickbait headline you’ve seen this week—that’s a promise. We’ve been sold a lie, a flimsy, fragile lie that’s about as sturdy as a house of cards in a tornado. And that lie is this: coddling leads to happy kids. Bull! We, at Slay Bambinis, have been on this for a minute, but now it’s getting loud because Abigail Shrier’s ‘Bad Therapy’ is spitting the same fire.
The book—damn, it’s like a grenade tossed in the posh living room of modern parenting ideals. I dove in headfirst, and it’s all light bulb moments. Everywhere you look nowadays, you see kids crumbling under mental health crises. Anxiety, depression, suicides—sky high! Sure, modern conveniences are stuffing their lives with comforts our forefathers couldn’t dream of, but these kids are breaking down faster than cheap sneakers on a marathon runner.
Why? Because our society’s pampering kids like they’re made of glass. Treat ’em like porcelain dolls, and guess what—you get dolls, not kids. A kid needs to scrape his knee to learn about pain, not sit on a satin pillow discussing his feelings about the possibility of scraping his knee.
Here are the cold, hard facts from ‘Bad Therapy’ slapped right onto your screen:
First, hypersensitivity. All we do is poke and prod kids about how they’re “feeling”. “Are you okay, honey? Are you happy? Are you sad?” Hell, if you keep asking someone if they’re sick, don’t be shocked when they start coughing. Kids are being groomed to be emotional hemophiliacs, bleeding out at the slightest scratch. Newsflash: that ain’t healthy.
And get this—ruminating on your emotions, stewing in your juices like a Thanksgiving turkey, it’s not doing you any good. In fact, it’s the express train to Anxiety Town and DepressionVille. If you want resilient kids, stop treating them like a psychologist’s project and start treating them like the tough little badasses they can be.
The problem is everybody’s scared to lay down the law. They think Strict Rules = Sad Kids. Wrong. Strict Rules = Happy Kids. Rules are not the enemy. Rules are the backbone that keeps the body from slumping into a sorry puddle. Structure, discipline, these are the building blocks of a strong mind and a strong life.
We’ve been practicing this at Slay Bambinis. We don’t ask, “Are you okay?” We ask, “What did you achieve today?” We’re not in the business of milling about feelings; we’re in the business of building fortitude. Life ain’t a talk show; it’s a battleground, and if you’re not equipping your kids with armor and weapons in the form of discipline and drive, then you’re setting them up for defeat.
Parents, wise up! I’m not saying you turn into a drill sergeant, but it’s high time we swap the comfort blankets for some weights. Build them up, don’t bubble wrap them. You’ll thank us when your kid turns into a conqueror, not a casualty.
Rigidness breeds resilience. Period.🎤
*Slay Bambini out.*
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Now, if that doesn’t light a fire under your chair, check for a pulse. Share this with every parent you know because, parents, it’s time to rewrite the playbook.
We've been sold a lie, a flimsy, fragile lie that's about as sturdy as a house of cards in a tornado. And that lie is this: coddling leads to happy kids. Bull! If you keep asking someone if they’re sick, don’t be shocked when they start coughing. Now if this doesn’t light a fire under your chair check for a pulse
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