People who love each other bear each other’s burdens equally! When I was at home , raising our children, my husband provided for us all! When they were grown, we worked together!
it boils down to the sharing of assets and responsibilities
If there is resentment in the division between assets and responsibilities, you need to work on that
Please note
By making him pay all of the bills, you give him the control. Your name is not on the lease/mortgage or the bank account(s). Sure, you can try and bank your money. But if he’s that well off, you can bet he’s building his own bank.
If your definition of what makes a real man is based solely on his paycheck, where he pays for everything, and you contribute nothing, you might as well be a Stepford wife.
If you’re financially dependent on someone it opens up the possibly of being controlled. I’d make sure you’ve built up trust and aren’t getting into a situation with someone that’s controlling/possessive.
That said it’s not the end all it used to be. If a guy is being abusive, all you’d have to do is post about and you’d get an angry mob to ruin his life, and find you a job. That kind of keeps things in check.
IMO a lot of guys are going to be decent about it and it won’t be an issue. As long as you respect each other and share decision making, who does what isn’t that big of an issue. People that obsess about 50/50 about everything are missing the point, they’re running a relationship like a business.
Splitting the bill on the first date
Why I will never pay a Man’s bill
Old money
New money
