A fabulous and very British interview!
A new series where a narcissistic psychopath and an empath discuss various aspects of the relationship between narcissist and empath providing differing perspectives and observations, all over a cup of tea.
This series is not for the faint of heart
Some key takeaways
The question about being dominant reminded me about a guy I went on a few dates with who wanted to be in a situation where he would be humiliated and be told what to do constantly. He wanted to be put down and called awful names. He wanted to be punished – all throughout the day. I couldn’t understand why he would want someone to do that…. I just couldn’t participate in that and he even offered to pay me to do it. I didn’t go out with him again.
During this discussion, I’ve had so many memories pop up in the span of hour. My experiences have left me in a position where I thought for awhile I was asexual bcs I didn’t want to have the sexual experiences I was having ever again. I realize now, I just don’t want to experience sex with a narcissist EVER again. It’s all about control and a rejection of intimacy in a confusing manner bcs of the ‘imitation’ of intimacy and once we are out of the golden period, we are left with an experience that just feels empty.
On the transfer of energy. Emotional empathy has an energy in our bodies and the narcissist need for fuel, is the need for that energetic feeling of power – it comes from us, taken by the narcissist. It’s an energetic transfer.
This series is not for the faint of heart
Married to a narc for 16 years…the few times we actually had sex it was a self-confidence killer for me. By the time I left him, I was a mess. Took a long time to recover…
Mindphuckery has a huge appeal to most people who have never been in the situation before. This is why I will never judge
Sometimes if the victim don't drink alcohol or smoke the narcissist would offer the victim these substances. Cruelty.
