**All I Do Is Live my Life by Design: The Blueprint to Owning Your Existence**

Let me tell you something right now—life doesn’t owe you a damn thing. Not success, not happiness, not even peace of mind. If you’re sitting around waiting for the universe to hand you a golden ticket, you’re going to be waiting until you’re six feet under. The truth is simple: **you either create your life with God or let someone else design it for you.** And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my journey so far, it’s this: *all I do is live my life by design.*

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### **What Does It Mean to Live Life by Your Design?**

Living life by your design isn’t about being selfish or reckless. It’s about taking full ownership of every decision, every action, and every consequence that comes your way. It’s about rejecting mediocrity, refusing to settle, and carving out a path that aligns with who you truly are—not what society, your parents, or some Instagram influencer tells you to be.

When I say “my design,” I mean *mine.* No one else’s. I don’t follow trends. I don’t chase validation. I don’t play by rules that were written for people too scared to rewrite them. I wake up every single day knowing exactly what I stand for, where I’m headed, and why I’m doing it. And guess what? You can too.

But here’s the catch: living life by your design requires sacrifice. It demands discipline. It forces you to confront fear head-on and step into discomfort like it’s your second home. Because let me make one thing crystal clear: comfort zones are cages. They keep you safe, sure—but they also keep you small. And if you want to build something extraordinary, you need to break free.

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### **The Problem With Living Someone Else’s Script**

Most people go through life sleepwalking. They wake up, clock in, scroll TikTok, eat junk food, watch Netflix, and repeat the cycle until they die. Why? Because it’s easy. Because it’s familiar. Because no one ever taught them how to dream bigger than their circumstances.

They live according to scripts handed down by others:
– Parents who pushed them toward careers they hate.
– Teachers who told them to “be realistic.”
– Friends who dragged them into lifestyles that don’t fit.
– Society that sold them lies about what success looks like.

And then they wonder why they feel empty. Why they’re stuck. Why they have everything they thought they wanted but still aren’t happy.

Here’s the brutal truth: if you’re not designing your own life, someone else is designing it for you. And trust me—you don’t want to leave your future in the hands of amateurs. People pleasers. Dream killers. Only God elevates through your own belief in greater things.

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### **How to Take Control and Build Your Own Blueprint**

So, how do you start living life by your design? Let me give you the blueprint—the same principles I’ve used to take control of my existence and turn it into something worth fighting for.

#### 1. **Define Your Vision**
You can’t hit a target you haven’t set. What does your ideal life look like? Who are you at your best? What kind of impact do you want to leave on the world? Get specific. Write it down. Visualize it daily. This isn’t just wishful thinking; this is your battle plan.

Too many people drift through life without direction because they’re afraid to define what they really want. Don’t be one of those people. Clarity is power. Without it, you’re just wandering aimlessly, hoping luck will save you. Spoiler alert: it won’t. And understand this prayer without belief is a wish! I’m here to help you turn your prayers and dreams into FACT!!!

#### 2. **Eliminate Distractions**
If you’re serious about building a life on your terms, you need to cut the noise. Unhelpful Social media content , toxic relationships, meaningless activities—they all steal your time and energy. Time is the only resource you can’t get back, so guard it like your life depends on it. Because it does.

Ask yourself: Does this serve me? Does this bring me closer to my goals? If the answer is no, eliminate it. Ruthlessly. Coldly. Without hesitation. You don’t have room for anything that doesn’t align with your vision.

#### 3. **Develop Unshakable Discipline**
Success isn’t sexy. It’s boring as hell. It’s waking up early when everyone else is sleeping in. It’s grinding when everyone else is partying. It’s saying no to short-term pleasures for long-term gains.

Discipline is the foundation of everything great. Talent gets you started, but discipline keeps you moving forward. If you want to live by life your design, you need to master the art of delayed gratification. Stop chasing instant dopamine hits and focus on the work that matters.

#### 4. **Embrace Failure as Fuel**
Failure isn’t the opposite of success—it’s part of the process. Every setback is a lesson. Every loss is an opportunity to grow stronger. But most people quit at the first sign of adversity because they’re addicted to comfort. Don’t be one of them.

When life knocks you down (and it will), get back up. Harder. Smarter. Stronger. Use failure as fuel to push further. Remember: diamonds are created under pressure. So are legends.

#### 5. **Surround Yourself With Winners**
Your environment shapes you more than you realize. If you’re surrounded by losers, complainers, and excuse-makers, you’ll become one of them. Surround yourself with people who challenge you, inspire you, and hold you accountable. People who demand excellence—not excuses.

Find mentors. Build alliances. Cut ties with anyone holding you back. Your circle should elevate you, not drag you down. Period.

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### **Why Living Life by Your Design Sets You Free**

When you live life by your design, you stop living for other people’s approval. You stop chasing money, fame, or external validation because none of that fills the void inside you. Instead, you pursue purpose. Passion. Legacy.

You become untouchable. Unbreakable. Unstoppable. Why? Because you’ve taken full responsibility for your life. You’ve stopped blaming others for your failures and started owning your wins—and your losses. You’ve realized that freedom isn’t given; it’s earned.

And let me tell you something else: when you live by life by your design, you inspire others to do the same. People notice. They see the confidence. The clarity. The relentless drive. And whether they admit it or not, they respect it. Some might even try to copy it. Let them. Because deep down, they know you’re playing a different game—one they’re too afraid to join.

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### **The Bottom Line**

Life is short. Brutal. Unforgiving. But it’s also beautiful—if you make it that way. You have two choices:
1. Let life happen *to* you. Be reactive. Passive. A passenger.
2. Make life happen *for* you. Be proactive. Aggressive. The driver.

I chose option two. All I do is live life by my design. And if you’re reading this, I challenge you to do the same. Stop making excuses. Stop waiting for permission. Start building the life you were meant to live.

Because here’s the truth: no one else is coming to save you. No knight in shining armor. No miracle cure. No lottery win. It’s just you and God almighty through your works. Against the world. Armed with nothing but your vision, your discipline, and your refusal to settle.

So, what’s it gonna be? Are you ready to take control? To rise above the noise? To live boldly, fiercely, unapologetically?

Good. Then start today. Start now. Because tomorrow isn’t promised. And neither is your potential.

Live life by your design—or prepare to live someone else’s. The choice is yours.

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