Should you stay with a guy who is lazy and unmotivated?
Don’t walk away! Run like you are trying out for the olympics!!! First of all a woman needs to respect a man! If she sees that she can out work him has more stamina it gets very old very quick. It isnt just a lazy boyfriend, it can be the other way around. A lazy woman isn’t appealing either. After the butterflies from that lst kiss subside and even is the sexual attraction is like 2 strong magnets drawn together eventually there comes the daily grind of making a living and this day and time for most it takes two to do that. All the butterflies do nothing for that hunger that you feel daily and things like driving a dependable car and decent, safe shelter come into play not to mention the luxury of having electric, cable, phone and the big screen tv. He won’t be attractive and you’ll find yourself being actually revolted by the sight of him and intimancy is the last thing you want! A man, a real man feels the need to provide for his woman to achieve and make her proud. If he doesnt do that now you haven’t begun to see the what you will eventually see. Men like that are basically very selfish. Your daily needs and feelings don’t cross his mind and believe me it gets old very quick. Do yourself a favor unload this dude now until you are like a nurse friend of mine. Married 13 years with a couple kids in a house his grandmother bought him which is to small by the way. She is making progress in her career, goes home to take care of the kids, never with enough money to take even a mini vacation, and all the housework and maintenance to do herself. He hires the yardwork done. He is just BORED by that work and besides its hot!!! After trying to get his attn for years and after a couple of trial separations she finally got enough and dumped the dude. Now rather then see what he may have done he spends his 32 hour working week selling ATV and crying how he was misunderstood!!! She was working her butt off on a critical ward night shift on her feet her whole shift and he sits on his duff and sells 4 wheelers and makes pitiful money. She saw no future with him because there wasnt one. 13 years is a lot of life. She has moved on and left that overgrown adolescent behind but not before she wasted all those years begging and trying desperately to get his attn. She had to and she will move on eventually to someone that wants to help her get ahead! I dont think there is much worse than a lazy man. Guess what? He is still lazy!
How important is money when getting married? If the guy you want to marry is broke, would you still go ahead and marry?
If you had asked me about it 36 years ago when I was young, and hopeful, and in love with my would- be husband, I’d have said that money had nothing to do with my love, our love, we could manage with as scarce as we made at that time ( and it was very little, indeed). I was fully prepared to invest in my family, in my husband and kids, expecting my spouse to do the same. Little did I know that when it came to investing in my health because of a serious health problem I would have to hold down two jobs in order to be able to pay the medical bills, with my husband doing absolutely nothing to help me out or to support me with a kind word at least. So, there I was writhing with pain but working long hours while he was buying things for his hobby( a second inflatable boat in a row). I will never forget asking him for a meager sum of 10000 roubles to last me to my payday which was due within three days when I was going to return him the money( I always borrowed money from him when I didn’t have enough of my own and returned everything to the last penny) and he refused to give it to me. My son gave me the money. And my hubby knew perfectly well that I needed the money for antidepressants which I simply couldn’t cancel as any abrupt cancelling would result in fainting, passing out without warning on the street or on the steps. And I had been investing in the family, him and the kids for years instead of saving money for a rainy day! It was so unjust, unfair and disgusting, so sickening!
So, if you asked me now, my answer would be “ Absolutely not!” Don’t invest in love! Invest in bonds or shares.
I dont think there is much worse than a lazy man. No matter what you do you can’t make these type of relationships make sense, A man, a real man feels the need to provide for his woman to achieve and make her proud. If he doesnt do that now you haven't begun to see the what you will eventually see. Men like that are basically very selfish. Your daily needs and feelings don't cross his mind and believe me it gets old very quick
