
Why does a cheater want to fix the marriage after being caught, but rarely want to fix the marriage before they cheat?
Cheaters, right? Let’s break it down, Slay Motivation style:
When someone steps out on their marriage, it’s not about the marriage needing “fixing.” It’s about them being a coward. They’re looking for that rush, that easy escape from reality, not willing to face the music at home. It’s all fun and games until they get caught. Now their little fantasy world crumbles, and they’re staring at the consequences of their actions.
Why do they suddenly want to fix the marriage after being caught? It’s Because they’re scared. They’re scared of losing their comfort, their stability, their backup plan. Cheaters thrive on having it all, the thrill of the new, and the security of the old. But once they’re busted, it’s a reality check. They’re not fixing the marriage out of love; they’re doing it out of fear. Fear of losing their reputation, their financial stability, or even their kids.
But here’s the kicker – if they truly valued their marriage, they would have worked on it BEFORE they decided to step out. They would have been a man (or a woman) about it, faced the problems head-on, and communicated with their partner. No one’s saying marriage is easy. It takes grit, it takes hustle, but most of all, it takes loyalty. Cheaters lack that. They lack the respect for their partner and themselves to stay true.
Bottom line: When a cheater wants to ‘fix’ things after being caught, it’s usually just damage control. It’s all about what they stand to lose, not about what they’ve done to their partner. A real boss, a true hustler in life and love, knows that loyalty is everything. If your marriage is on the rocks, you don’t sneak around; you fix it from the inside. Or you have the guts to walk away before you break the trust.
And if you’re the one cheated on? You’ve got to evaluate if this person is genuinely remorseful and willing to change, or if they’re just trying to snake their way back into your good graces while keeping one foot out the door. Respect yourself enough to demand that loyalty, and if it’s not given, be ready to walk away. Power moves only.