Why do you still love someone who treated you like complete garbage? Let’s break this down, brutally and honestly, Slay Motivation style. You might not like what you’re gonna hear, but here it is.
You’re in love with them because your brain is wired to seek out what’s familiar. It’s like a sick addiction. It’s survival instincts gone wrong. When someone treats you like trash, not just once, but repeatedly, and you still crave their validation, their affection, their…whatever, it’s not love, my Slay Motivation tribe. It’s psychological warfare, and you’re the casualty.
Let me make this clear: Love is respect. Love is loyalty. Love is making you feel like a king or queen, every damn day. Love isn’t this toxic cycle where you’re high one moment and shattered the next. But you, you’re caught in the abyss of what once was, clinging onto echoes of good times, blinded by a mirage.
See, you’re stuck with a chemical cocktail in your brain. Every time they throw you a breadcrumb, a smile, a touch, a “sorry,” your brain lights up like a Christmas tree. Dopamine hits you, and it feels like love. But it’s nothing but your brain chemistry reacting to inconsistent rewards. This is basic psychology, not some magical connection or soulmate nonsense.
Now, let’s answer the real kicker: Is it still love if they hurt you?
Hell no. Love doesn’t hurt. Love doesn’t leave you questioning your worth, crying yourself to sleep, or second-guessing every move. That’s emotional manipulation, it’s control, it’s power play. True love lifts you up; it doesn’t drag you down.
You don’t owe your loyalty to someone who can’t treat you with basic decency. You don’t owe your heart to someone who tramples it. You’ve got to understand that loving someone who treats you poorly isn’t a testament to your capacity for love; it’s a red flag about your self-respect and self-worth.
You’ve been programmed to confuse excitement, chaos, and uncertainty with passion. You’ve romanticized the toxic roller-coaster because, somewhere deep inside, you believe you don’t deserve better. That’s the harsh truth. That’s the raw deal. You need to dig deep and figure out why the hell you’re attracted to someone who’s clearly bad news for you.
Stop making excuses for them. Stop romanticizing their “potential” or holding onto the “old them.” They showed you their true colors, over and over. Why are you ignoring it?
It’s time to break free from this cycle of insanity. Cut them off, cold turkey. Rewire your brain. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything and anyone that’s not giving you the respect, the value, and the love you deserve.
You’ve only got one life – you’re not gonna waste it being someone’s doormat. Wake up, take control, and demand the standard of treatment that matches your worth. Anything less is unacceptable. Anything less isn’t love. It’s a trap. Don’t kid yourself.
You’re stronger, smarter, and infinitely more valuable than to spend one more second suffering because of someone who doesn’t deserve you. Period. Now go and prove it to yourself.
You’re in love with them because your brain is wired to seek out what’s familiar. It's like a sick addiction. It's survival instincts gone wrong. When someone treats you like trash, not just once, but repeatedly, and you still crave their validation, their affection, their...whatever, it's not love, my Slay Motivation tribe. It's psychological warfare, and you're the casualty.
