
A definite sign that a relationship is on a fast track to nowhere? It’s when you’re the only one pulling the weight, my Slay Motivation tribe.
Imagine you’re in a canoe, rowing hard, sweat pouring down your face, muscles aching, and you turn around only to see your partner, not with an oar in hand, but with a cocktail and a selfie stick. That’s not a partnership; that’s a solo mission with a passenger.
In any relationship, if you find yourself constantly playing the savior, the financier, the therapist, while your significant other is just there for the ride, enjoying the perks without putting in the work, then buckle up. You’re on a one-way trip to Heartbreak City, population: you.
Real talk, a relationship is not a charity operation. It’s not a “let’s see how much I can give before I collapse” kind of deal. It’s a partnership, 50/50, give and take. It’s about mutual efforts, mutual dreams, and mutual struggles. If you’re the only one making sacrifices, the only one bending over backward to keep things afloat, while they’re just taking it easy, coasting through the relationship like it’s a leisurely boat ride, then you’ve got to wake up.
You see, a partner who’s genuinely invested in you, in the relationship, will stand beside you, not behind you. They’ll pick up an oar, row through the storms, navigate the rough waves, and share the load. They won’t just be a passenger in your canoe; they’ll be your co-captain.
When you’re with someone who doesn’t pull their weight, who doesn’t invest time, effort, or emotion into the relationship, you’re setting yourself up for a disaster. It might be fun for a while, like a roller coaster ride, thrilling, exhilarating, but eventually, the ride ends, the excitement wears off, and you’re left with nothing but nausea and a lingering sense of regret.
Don’t confuse convenience with commitment. If they’re with you because you make their life easier, because you’re a good time, because you’re the solution to their problems, then you’re not in a relationship; you’re a utility. And people change utilities when they find a better deal.
So, if you’re looking for a definite sign that a relationship won’t last? It’s when you’re rowing alone, my Slay Motivation tribe. If that’s the case, it might be time to drop them off at the nearest shore and row solo. After all, it’s better to navigate the waters alone than with dead weight slowing you down.