They say youth is wasted on the young.
It doesn’t have to be.
Learn to accept and love yourself first.
In other words, show some self-compassion.
Learn to say no with confidence.
Take more risks.
Don’t talk yourself out of doing things you want to do. Don’t let fear win. If you want to vacation in Europe, do it. If you want to talk to that hot girl/guy at the bar, do it. If you want to start your own business, do it (and do the research first). Getting to your 30s and having a string of regrets is going to haunt you, Given a 10% chance of a 100 times payoff, you should take that bet every time.
Pull the trigger.
If you think of your life as an engineering problem, you always want to be prototyping – building a model and testing it. As Bernard Roth, Stanford professor and author of “The Achievement Habit,” says, you don’twant to be tinkering forever, until you’ve got the seemingly perfect model.
So try out life in another country, or launch your business on a small scale and see how it goes. If it doesn’t work out, you can always try again.
Turn your weaknesses into strengths.
For Phelps, having a somewhat awkward body type made him a pretty bad runner and dancer – but it also made him an incredible swimmer. For Churchill, being paranoid meant that he was once “deemed unsuitable for the highest offices” – but it also meant he recognized Hitler as a threat to the world.
Figure out what makes you weird, and turn it into the thing that makes you a winner.
Learn to negotiate with politeness.
Forgive yourself. Kicking yourself over past failures won’t change what happened, it will just leave you sore from being kicked so much. Give up all hope for a better past. Own who you have been so it doesn’t own you. The point isn’t to live without any regrets, the point is to not hate ourselves for having them. We need to learn to love the flawed, imperfect things that we create, and to forgive ourselves for creating them. Regret doesn’t remind us that we did badly – it reminds us that we know we can do better.”
Don’t compare yourself to others.
In the social media age, it is tempting to beat yourself up if your friends are getting married, having kids, and living a life of luxury. We each live our own lives. The only thing you’re going to do is hurt yourself.
Indeed, research suggests that comparing yourself to others is pretty pointless. That’s because, from the outside, people can seem a lot happier and less troubled than they really are.
Don’t be afraid to change directions.
Yeah, you went to high school, then maybe did some college, tech school, training or whatever and thought that was your direction. But if you finally get a job, and you’re not happy, work to change that s— immediately. Spending your entire workweek being unhappy just because it pays the bills will not make you happy.
“The longer you wait to change, the harder it will feel to change. So get used to change, because you’ll probably need to do it a number of times throughout your life and career.
Don’t rack up debt.
“I regret not saving more money and, more importantly, I regret racking up debt. That nearly killed me in my 30s. Some of it was necessary, of course, but a lot was credit card overkill.
“I also regret not traveling more. Once we married and started having kids, travel got curtailed. We still went on trips but they were family trips. I wish I would have taken her on a couple of big out-of-country excursions before family came into play.”
Don’t burn your bridges.
There will be times when you will need to be amiable with people from the past for various reasons and the last thing you need is someone saying ‘F— that guy’ because of something petty or stupid that could have easily been avoided.”
Try to avoid thinking of your 30s as some kind of stopping point for fun things.
“I know of several people whose 30s have been more fun than their 20s, and it’s in part because they can look back with experience and realize they’re better at balancing and enjoying the things they want to do. You still have so much in life, don’t just let it be over because you survived another 365 days!”
Do not spend one more minute of your life with someone who makes you feel like you are less than you are.
Do not spend one more minute of your life with someone who makes you feel like you are less than you are … he or she will never change for the better and you might just change for the worse.”
Take care of your body.
“I wish I had taken better care of myself. Instead, I let my weight catch back up with me, I ignored a few dental problems, and I didn’t take care of my finances as well as I should have.
“I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’m 31 now, and none of these problems are dire for me, but God they’re a much bigger pain in the ass to deal with now, compared to how much effort it would have taken to not let them become an issue at all.”
It generally is easier to manage your weight when you’re younger because we tend to be less active as we age.
Don’t get caught up in the cycle of buying expensive things to keep up with the Joneses.
lifestyle creep – the act of spending more as you get it, to save face among or to impress your peers – erodes wealth quickly. Delaying gratification, instead, and saving that money for later has the potential to make you extremely wealthy down the line.
Build upon friendships.
There is more to life than going out every night. Stay at home with close friends. Go on adventures together.
“That being said, don’t be afraid to end some friendships. Fair-weather friends are not worth your time. Stay loyal to those that truly matter and invest your time with them.”
Don’t rush to cram stuff into your 20s because you think you should
“I am 36 and I have never understood this ‘do things before you’re 30’ thing. I don’t see why you can’t do things after you’re 30, or after you’re 40. I don’t see why the number 30 is so symbolic.
“My advice is don’t rush to cram stuff into your 20s because you think you should. Just do what you want, do what feels natural, and take your time with it if need be.”
This collage piece was created to capture the intricacies of our 20s.
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