Hearing someone say, “it’s not about you,” is a sure sign your ego has gotten in the way.

Arrogance and fear still keep you from learning the simplest and most significant lesson of all…. It’s not about you….Silence your ego and your power will rise.”  The Ancient One in the film, Dr. Strange.

Unfortunately everyone needs ego to navigate the material world, thus you cannot exactly silence your ego.  You can learn, however, to recognize and step back from this part of you.  Pausing to examine your story allows you space to choose a response from the self rather than a reaction from the ego.  

Your ego is NOT who you really are, nor is it the true self of others.  Ego is the image everyone has of themselves and the mask they put on for others.  Your brain utilizes the ego as a front line defense against vulnerability.  The ego is responsible for the running commentary in your mind, which often you will find is interpreting events in light of potential threats to you or your image.

What actually trips everyone up is their reactions to the story the ego tells about the facts. While this story is intended to keep you from harm, it is really only about the superficialities in life, and it frequently provides only a limited perspective.  In fact, the ego will even misinterpret the facts, when the situation is not even about you.  

It is not always personal:  “When you realize it’s not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were.” Eckhart Tolle.

Practice learning to pause long enough to differentiate your ego from your authentic self.  

By Cynthia J Hardwick

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It is not always personal:

 “When you realize it’s not personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were.” Eckhart Tolle.