THEY SOLD YOU A FAIRY TALE. LET’S DISCUSS THE BATTLEFIELD.
You’re asking the wrong question.
You’re sitting there, heart in your throat, scrolling through vague astrology posts and consulting your friends, wondering if the person you love is truly “committed.” You’re looking for a sign, a feeling, a magical spark in the distance.
Let me be blunt: You are lost in a fantasy.
Love is not a Disney song. It is not a passive emotion that happens to you. Love, real love, is a CONSCIOUS, STRATEGIC DECISION. It is a verb. It is an action. It is a relentless, daily commitment to a shared mission.
Stop looking for butterflies. Start looking for blueprints.
A person who is distant but committed is not a paradox. They are a general fighting on a different front. The question is not about their location. The question is about their LOYALTY TO THE MISSION.
Here is how you know, with cold, hard certainty, if they are committed:
1. DO THEIR ACTIONS BUILD THE EMPIRE, OR DRAIN ITS RESOURCES?
A committed partner, even from another continent, is actively building. They are securing the future. They are investing—not just money, but focus, energy, and strategy—into the life you are supposedly building together.
Are they making financial decisions with your future in mind?
Are they cultivating their skills and status to elevate you BOTH?
When they face a problem, is their first thought, “How does this affect US?”
A non-committed partner is a tourist in your life. They consume your time, your emotional energy, and your peace. They take, but they do not build. Distance just makes their consumption less obvious.
2. DO THEY UPHOLD THE HIERARCHY OF LOYALTY?
You must be at the top of their hierarchy. Not their job. Not their friends. Not their hobbies.
If they are distant, do they make you feel like the most important client in their multi-billion dollar corporation? When you call, does the world stop for them? Or do you get the “I’m busy, talk later” text that tells you you’re an afterthought?
A committed partner makes you feel the weight of your importance in their life, no matter the miles between you. Their respect for you is non-negotiable and evident in every interaction.
3. CAN YOU HANDLE THE TRUTH ABOUT “TRUE LOVE”?
Can true love exist without physical proximity? Of course it can. But it cannot exist without PURPOSE.
A soldier deployed overseas loves his family with a ferocity that a man sitting on his couch every night cannot comprehend. Why? Because their separation has a purpose. Their mission is clear.
If your distance has no purpose—if it’s just drift, or avoidance, or a lack of planning—then it’s not love. It’s procrastination.
True love isn’t about being physically together every second. It’s about the unwavering knowledge that you are fighting the same war on different fronts. You are two sharks, hunting in different waters, but you are bringing the spoils back to the same den.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Stop measuring commitment by the frequency of their texts or the warmth of their tone. Measure it by the steel in their voice when they talk about your future. Measure it by the sacrifices they make that no one sees. Measure it by the relentless, quiet work they do to ensure your shared victory.
A weak person is “busy.” A committed person is BUILDING.
If you have to ask the question, you already have the answer. The doubt in your gut is the data you’ve been ignoring.
Stop begging for crumbs of attention from someone who isn’t feeding the future. Either they are a dedicated soldier in your army, or they are a civilian taking up space.
Demand the loyalty you deserve. Or walk away and find someone who understands that love isn’t a feeling—it’s a WARFARE PACTSigned in blood.
Now go and audit your relationship. Is it an empire, or is it a sinking ship?
Your move.
If you have to ask the question, you already have the answer. The doubt in your gut is the data you’ve been ignoring. Stop begging for crumbs of attention from someone who isn't feeding the future. Either they are a dedicated soldier in your army, or they are a civilian taking up space
