Listen up, because I’m about to break it down for you with the unfiltered truth, the way only I know how. If an ex keeps re-entering your life, it’s not rocket science, it’s basic emotional economics. They’re showing you, in the clearest way possible, that they’ve still got skin in the game. Feelings. Interest. Whatever you want to call it, it’s there.
First off, let’s get one thing straight: People move towards pleasure and away from pain. It’s a fundamental drive. So if your ex is boomeranging back into your life, ask yourself why. Are you the pleasure they seek or are they just avoiding the pain of being alone? Maybe a bit of both? It’s not just about them missing you, it’s about them missing the reflection of themselves they see in you. People are mirrors for each other, and maybe, just maybe, you’re the best mirror they’ve ever had.
Pay attention to the nuances. Are they diving into your DMs with “Hey, just wondering how you’re doing” every time they hit a rough patch? Or are they making a genuine effort to be part of your world again, showing up at events they know you’ll be at, or reaching out to your friends? It’s in these details you’ll find your answers.
Behavior doesn’t lie. If they’re oscillating between hot and cold, congratulations, you’ve got yourself an emotional yo-yo. But if their actions are consistent, considerate, and clear, then you might be dealing with genuine feelings.
Remember, real recognizes real. If their intentions are pure, you’ll feel it. Your gut won’t lie. But here’s the kicker—you’ve got to be honest with yourself about what you see and feel. Are you interpreting their actions through a lens of what you hope to be true, or are you keeping it real?
Bottom line: If an ex keeps reappearing, it’s because, on some level, they’re not done. They see value in you that they’re not ready to let go of. Maybe they’re still in love, maybe they’re scared of moving on, or maybe they’re just unsure of what they want. But their actions reveal a truth they might not even fully understand themselves.
So what do you do? You hold your ground. You live your life with purpose, direction, and self-respect. You don’t wait around for someone to make their mind up about you. You set the standard, and you demand nothing less than certainty and respect. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about whether your ex has feelings for you. It’s about whether they meet the high standards you set for your life.
Remember, you’re the prize. Act like it.
If an ex keeps re-entering your life, it's not rocket science, it's basic emotional economics. They're showing you, in the clearest way possible, that they've still got skin in the game. Feelings. Interest. Whatever you want to call it, it's there.
