THE MOMENT YOU HAND SOMEONE THE KNIFE, YOU ACCEPT THE POSSIBILITY OF THE STAB.
MOST OF YOU WALK AROUND WEARING BLINDFOLDS MADE OF HOPE AND CALLING IT LOVE. YOU THINK MARRIAGE IS A FAIRY TALE WRITTEN BY DISNEY. IT IS NOT. IT IS A BLOOD OATH. IT IS A MERGER OF EMPIRES. AND WHEN ONE PARTNER DECIDES TO SABOTAGE THE DEAL, THEY AREN’T JUST HURTING YOUR FEELINGS. THEY ARE DECLARING WAR ON YOUR REALITY.
YOU ASK ABOUT PHYSICAL VS. EMOTIONAL? YOU ASK WHY IT HURTS?
YOU ARE ASKING THE WRONG QUESTION. THE QUESTION IS: WHY DO YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PLACED IN A POSITION WHERE YOUR PEACE OF MIND IS DEPENDENT ON SOMEONE ELSE’S LOYALTY?
BUT SINCE YOU NEED THE TRUTH SERVED RAW, HERE IT IS.
**THE PHYSICAL AFFAIR IS THEFT OF ACCESS.**
IT IS BRUTAL. IT IS HYGIENIC. IT IS TANGIBLE.
WHEN A WOMAN CHEATS PHYSICALLY, SHE IS TREATING YOUR BODY LIKE A PUBLIC PARK. SHE IS ALLOWING ANOTHER MALE TO OPERATE IN YOUR SPACE. FROM AN EVOLUTIONARY STANDPOINT, THIS IS THE ULTIMATE INSULT. IT QUESTIONS YOUR ABILITY TO GUARD WHAT IS YOURS. IT BRINGS DISEASE. IT BRINGS THE RISK OF ANOTHER MAN’S SEED IN YOUR NEST.
IT IS A SLAP IN THE FACE WITH A WET GLOVE. IT IS DISRESPECT IN HIGH DEFINITION.
BUT HERE IS THE TWIST THE MATRIX DOESN’T WANT YOU TO KNOW: THE PHYSICAL IS OFTEN EASIER TO FORGIVE THAN THE EMOTIONAL. WHY? BECAUSE THE PHYSICAL CAN BE LUST. IT CAN BE WEAKNESS. IT CAN BE A MOMENTARY LAPSE IN JUDGMENT BY A WEAK MIND.
**THE EMOTIONAL AFFAIR IS THEFT OF ALLEGIANCE.**
THIS IS WHERE THE REAL DESTRUCTION LIVES.
WHEN SHE GIVES HER EMOTIONS TO ANOTHER MAN, SHE ISN’T JUST SHARING A BED. SHE IS SHARING HER SOUL. SHE IS LAUGHING AT HIS JOKES WHILE YOU PAY THE BILLS. SHE IS SEEKING HIS VALIDATION WHILE YOU PROVIDE HER SECURITY.
AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR MEANS SHE HAS REPLACED YOU IN HER MIND BEFORE SHE EVER REPLACED YOU IN HER BED.
IT IS PSYCHOLOGICAL CASTRATION.
IT MEANS ANOTHER MAN HAS ACCESS TO HER VULNERABILITY, HER DREAMS, HER INNER WORLD. YOU ARE JUST THE UTILITY. THE ATM. THE SHELTER. HE IS THE PASSION.
THIS IS WHY IT DESTROYS MEN. BECAUSE IT TELLS YOU THAT YOU ARE REPLACEABLE NOT JUST AS A LOVER, BUT AS A LEADER.
**WHY DOES IT CAUSE SO MUCH PAIN?**
IT IS NOT BECAUSE YOU ARE “SAD.”
IT IS BECAUSE YOUR COMPETENCE HAS BEEN QUESTIONED.
WHEN YOU BUILD A LIFE, YOU BUILD A FRAME. YOU ARE THE ARCHITECT. WHEN BETRAYAL HAPPENS, THE FOUNDATION CRACKS. YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND YOU DON’T SEE A SLAYLEBRITY KING. YOU SEE A FOOL. YOU SEE SOMEONE WHO WAS DUPED.
THE PAIN IS HUMILIATION.
THE PAIN IS REALIZING THAT THE PERSON SLEEPING NEXT TO YOU IS ACTUALLY SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY.
THE PAIN IS KNOWING THAT WHILE YOU WERE GRINDING, WHILE YOU WERE BUILDING, WHILE YOU WERE PROTECTING, SHE WAS DIGGING A HOLE FOR YOUR LEGACY.
SOCIETY TELLS YOU TO TALK ABOUT IT. TO GO TO THERAPY. TO “WORK ON IT.”
THIS IS WEAKNESS. THIS IS THE MATRIX TRYING TO NEUTER YOUR INSTINCTS.
WHEN A SPY IS FOUND IN YOUR ARMY, YOU DO NOT TAKE THEM TO COUNSELING. YOU REMOVE THEM.
THE REASON BOTH AFFAIRS DEVASTATE IS THAT THEY BOTH STRIP YOU OF YOUR AGENCY. THEY MAKE YOU A VICTIM IN YOUR OWN STORY. AND A TOP SLAYLEBRITY DOES NOT ACCEPT VICTIMHOOD.
IF IT IS PHYSICAL, SHE LACKS DISCIPLINE.
IF IT IS EMOTIONAL, SHE LACKS LOYALTY.
BOTH ARE FATAL FLAWS IN A PARTNER.
YOU WANT TO STOP THE PAIN? STOP LOOKING FOR THE REASON IN HER. LOOK AT THE MIRROR.
DID YOU LET YOUR GUARD DOWN?
DID YOU BECOME COMFORTABLE?
DID YOU STOP BEING THE PRIZE AND START BEING THE OPTION?
THE PAIN IS A SIGNAL. IT IS YOUR INSTINCT SCREAMING AT YOU THAT YOUR ENVIRONMENT IS NO LONGER SAFE FOR YOUR GROWTH.
MOST MEN COPE. THEY SEETHE. THEY BEG. THEY TRY TO “WIN HER BACK.”
PATHETIC.
YOU CANNOT WIN BACK SOMEONE WHO NEVER LOST YOU, BECAUSE THEY NEVER VALUED YOU TO BEGIN WITH.
THE ONLY WAY TO WIN IS TO WALK THROUGH THE FIRE AND COME OUT HARDER.
LET THE BETRAYAL BURN THE WEAKNESS OUT OF YOU.
LET IT TEACH YOU THAT TRUST IS EARNED IN DROPs AND LOST IN BUCKETS.
LET IT TEACH YOU THAT YOUR PEACE IS NON-NEGOTIABLE.
IF THEY CHOOSE TO BURN THE BRIDGE, YOU DON’T CRY ABOUT THE ASHES. YOU BUILD A BOAT AND SAIL TO HIGHER GROUND.
PHYSICAL OR EMOTIONAL? IT DOESN’T MATTER.
THE RESULT IS THE SAME.
RESPECT IS GONE.
ONCE RESPECT IS GONE, LOVE IS A LIE.
STOP ASKING WHY IT HURTS. START ASKING WHY YOU ARE STILL STANDING IN THE LINE OF FIRE.
ESCAPE THE MATRIX. PROTECT YOUR PEACE.
OR BLEED OUT TRYING TO SAVE A SINKING SHIP.
THE CHOICE IS YOURS.
YOU ARE ASKING THE WRONG QUESTION. THE QUESTION IS: WHY DO YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PLACED IN A POSITION WHERE YOUR PEACE OF MIND IS DEPENDENT ON SOMEONE ELSE'S LOYALTY? MOST OF YOU WALK AROUND WEARING BLINDFOLDS MADE OF HOPE AND CALLING IT LOVE. YOU THINK MARRIAGE IS A FAIRY TALE WRITTEN BY DISNEY. IT IS NOT.
