By Dr Ifeyinwa Nwakwesi MBBS
Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle specialist
The phenomenal woman
1 OUR PARENTING AND EDUCATIONAL CURRICULUM NEEDS TO BE MODIFIED TO INCLUDE GROWTH MINDSET AND INTEGRATIVE LIFESTYLE
We need to modify our parenting skills and educational curriculum to include basic knowledge, skills, strategies and wisdom for successful living.
Certificates and degrees are important stepping stones to success but do not guarantee true success.
We need to teach children early in life about committment to the Growth mindset which is continous and consistent personal development in all areas of life , spiritual mental, emotional and physical. it is important that our young people are taught relationship skills so they can be empowering partners and spouses building their relationships with wise words and actions instead of tearing them down.
Parents should invest in Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle trainimgs for their children so they will grow up with wisdom and profound knowledge to cope with inevitable challenges of life and become truly successful.
2 EACH OF US NEED TO BUILD A SOLID SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION
Many of us profess to be Christians and Muslims in words but not in deed.
We are a praying nation and yet our decadence level is deep.
In 2024 we should all strive to reduce religious rituals but make efforts to live more in the spirit and less in the flesh.
When we live mostly in the flesh we make poor choices which give rise to unnecessary challenges in our life
We begin to live mostly in survival modes , attempt to solve the challenges with quick fix methods that are usually not effective solutions.
Sometimes we begin to blame others, our parents, spouses, family members and friends. We refuse to take personal responsibilities for the changes we need to make that will help us resolve the challenges.
The churches and mosques are some of the great platforms to teach the Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle as human beings are not only spiritual but mental,, emotional and physical
3 WE NEED TO STRIVE TO LiVE WITH POSITIVE MINDSETS.
Many of us are not intentional about living with positive mindsets and attitude.
We pretend to be happy and in peace externally but we are loaded with toxins emanating from inner disharmony, lack of inner contentment, peace, self love and compassion.
All that glitters is not gold. We are too focused on external beauty and we hardly focus on the inner being so we may live with people who are in constant state of inner agitation, frustration and anger,.
It is no wonder our relationship challenges and conflict index are increasing on a daily basis,. People have to acquire knowledge on mindset reprogramming, attitudinal, behavioural change, and values reorientation from our primary schools, secondary schools, universities, churches and mosques.
Organisations and leadership should encourage Nigerians to take courses in positive mindest and attitude so we can have more people in inner contentment, harmony, happiness, peace, humility, integrity, transparency, compassion, empathy and impact.
This will help improve the quality of our citezenship and leadership so we can all collectively rebuild the Nigerian Nation.
4 WE NEED TO MAKE MORE HEALTHY LIFE CHOICES TO PREVENT CHRONIC DISEASES AND ACHIEVE VIBRANT HEALTH
Many people are suffering and dying from Lifestyle preventable chronic diseases..
Conventional modality of care is important in our health care system but they do not have all the solutions to our heath crisis.
Many people are living with body dysfunctions mineral and vitamin deficiencies which are indications that the organs are beginning to malfunction.
We need to look at the quality of food we are producing in the society and strive to use proven organic Agro products that can help us produce healthier foods that will nourish our cells instead of destroying our cells and giving rise to cancers and other chronic diseases.
We must all learn stress coping skills as stress is a silent killer. In 2024 may those in leadership of our health sector focus on upgrading our primary heath centers to preventive and integrative wellness centers so that medical doctors and other health care professionals can learn the lifestyle and be able to pass the knowledge to thousands of Nigerians in their communities.
We need to upgrade the quality of our water to clean alkaline mineralized anti– oxidant rich hydrogen infused energy healing water to hydrate the cells to help in improvement of the functioning of the cells.
Medical doctors, pharmacists, and other health care professionals can be trained in the use of research – backed effective nutritional supplements that can support conventional therapies in fastracking recovery from chronic diseases.
Health starts in the spirit and mind so it is important Nigerians learn how to appropriate the healing power of God inherent in their bodies to build their health and use positive words and affirmations to help their bodies rebalance itself.
Exercises, breathing techniques, meditations are also advisable habits that can help build our health.
May our morbidity and mortality rates be drastically reduced in 2024 by empowering choices and God’s grace.
5 LET US STRIVE TO BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGEs
Relationship and marriage challenges in our society are becoming an epidemic. It requires urgent attention if the society will be saved from the detrimental effects of toxic relationships, separations and divorce.
Our parenting skills, christian and Muslim marriage counselling classes hardly focus on the root causes of these challenges and they are often focusing on the spiritual side of the person.
Our educational curriculum is also focuses mostly on certification, and degree without equipping young people with the knowledge skills and strategies for building healthy relationships and marriages.
Most of our youths go into relationships and marriages ill-equipped with the skills to face the inevitable challenges that life relationships and marriages present..
They are usually impatient, focusing on their spouses weaknesses instead of the strengths.
They have unrealistic expectations and set rules, which are easily broken by their spouses so many of them.are living with inner agitation of failed expectations.
In that state of inner disharmony their communications are often combative and with the habit of not engaging in frank empowering conversation most couples bottle up their inner emotions and this lays the foundation’ for inter-Personal conflicts which are some of the root causes of separation and divorce.
Let us equip our young ones with the necessary skills and tools they need to build healthy relationships and marriages.
6 OUR LEADERSHIP NEEDS TO BE IMPROVED
Our current leadership needs to upgrade their skills of leadership and commit to the principle of CANI– constant and never ending improvement in all areas of their lives.
We all know the situation with our electoral processes but the main issue is our inability to focus on sustainable solutions.
Our usual habit is stay on the side line and complain.
The present leadership is aware that Nigeria needs to be rebuilt so they ought to engage the best talents and minds in the technology of Change to put in place a working implementable document that can be used to start the rebuilding of Nigeria.
A good leader does not necessarily need to have all the knowledge but is humble to engage talents and experts in the different developmental indices and support them to design, strategize and also implement a well – articulated plan through the ministries,
Robust economic and wealth creation policies should be put in place followed by daily commitments and actions until success is achieved.
Our leaders should strive to improve their characters so they can motivate the younger ones and be role models of good character.
We need to put in place electoral reforms that will make it almost impossible to cheat and manipulate the electoral processes.
Their are technologies that can provide such services but most of all we need more honest and patriotic leaders and citizenship.
7 WOMEN AND YOUTH EMPOWERMENT.
We can experience a rapid growth in the number of women and youths who rise from poverty to self reliance.
Agro and Digital technology empowerment are very good tools to help empower millions of women and youths.
Most of the food we still import can be produced in Nigeria.
It is a big shame that the plant nutrients we use to grow our food are still imported from Asian countries.
We need a robust program for women and youths empowerment which can be community based supported by funds from Government and private sector and driven by honest and credible Nigerians.
We are blessed with enormous material and human resources. Let us strive in 2024 to empower our women and youths to become self reliant through training and investment in farm cultivation digital technology and other developmental projects.
8 WE NEED TO ACQUIRE SKILLS IN CONFLICT RESOLUTION TO REDUCE OUR CONFLICT INDEX.
The incidence of inter personal conflicts in our families and society is increasing at an alarming rate.
Nigerians need training to acquire conflict resolution skills so that families will avoid the unnecessary toxicity that tear families apart and impact negatively on the children of the marriage.
Interpersonal conflicts also weakens our immune systems and affect our health and wellbeing.
We need many conflict resolution skills acquisition centers in 2024.
It is important we all commit to a lifestyle that make us peace makers instead of being controlled by our ego and destructive self pride.
9 WE NEED A ROBUST SOCIAL IMPACT STRATEGY
In 2024, we must all commit to supporting our weak and vulnerable brothers and sisters.
Social impact is a very important aspect of every society.
We need to strategically put in a place a social support system for widows, orphans, the hungry, homeless and those who cannot afford hospital bills.
My perspective is that it should be community based so it can be easily monitored to assess the impact made.
There should be a robust collaboration between the government and private sector.
We can collectively change the lives of millions of the less privileged in our society by God’s grace.
10 THE WOMEN AND YOUTHS MUST ARISE AND COLLABORATE TO MAKE MORE LEADERSHIP AND SOCIAL IMPACT
In 2024 Nigerian women should change the marginalization mindset to WE CAN DO mindset.
Women are made with innate talents that give them ability to multi-task. They are strong, resilient, determined, committed, focused and generally more honest than Men.
Women need a sustainable strategic road map that can provide training platforms for women and their children, the youths in leadership skills and successful living.
The strategy will include empowerment and impact projects.
Women must walk their talk by pooling resources to impact lives of the less privileged and also support women and youths to vie for political leadership and support them with funds through election process.
This year must be the year of critical thinking and a sustainable implementation strategy that can get more women and youths into the high echelons of our political leadership
11 THE RULE OF LAW MUST BE UPHELD IRRESPECTIVE OF SOCIAL STATUS
One of our greatest challenge in this society is that we do not punish especially the highly placed for offenses
The judiciary is also compromised. Our values as a people are grossly eroded. The culture eilogizes ill gotten wealth giving young people the impression it is acceptable to make quick money. A society with no values and rules is a failed society. Let year 2024 be a year of reawakening for all of us. Let us bring back the principle– centered values of honesty, transparency, patriotism and integrity which gave us a solid foundation as a nation. We are all leaders in our spheres of influence. Let us be the light that pales the darkness in our lives.
Conclusion:
God has answered all our prayers.
Let us thank God for answered prayers.
Let us make better choices and appropriate God’s answered prayers in our lives so we can all collectively with capable and competent leadership, rebuild our country so Nigeria can become the Giant of Africa as destined by God
Dr Ifeyinwa Nwakwesi, MBBS
Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle specialist
The phenomenal woman
CEO Healthy Living Services Nig Ltd
Director Fymak group of Companies
Executive chair Women Aligned For Growth
Executive chair Enugwu – Ukwu daughters community development initiative
Member BOT Azu – Ogbunike impact initiative
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